• Brene Brown’s Call to Courage 2018

    I was very moved by some words I found on Brene Brown’s blog just over a week ago. I’m grateful to have the words so beautifully and succinctly put so I can share them with my children. This is Brene Brown’s call to courage 2018:

    Stop walking through the world looking for
    confirmation that you don’t belong.
    You will always find it because you’ve
    made that your mission.

    Stop scouring people’s faces for evidence
    that you are not enough.
    You will always find it because you’ve
    made that your goal.

    True belonging and self-worth are not goods; we
    don’t negotiate their value with the world.
    The truth about who we
    are lives in our hearts.

    Our call to courage is to protect our
    wild heart against constant evaluation,
    especially our own.

    Brene Brown #Bravingthewilderness

    Brene presents these words, on her blog, in a visual way for sharing on pinterest and facebook so please click through to her original post if you wish to pin or share.
    Brene’s work has inspired me for years and really helped me to positively change the way I think and parent. I highly recommend her material, some of which I have listed below.

    Thank you Brene for being such an incredible source of inspiration.


    Brene’s books that I have read and recommend:
    The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
    Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead.
    Rising Strong: The Reckoning, The Rumble, The Revolution.
    Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone.

    Brene has a selection of material on Audible. I recommend reading her books rather than listening to them (except where she has narrated them herself), but there are several speeches that are brilliant and well worth investing in:
    The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connection, and Courage
    The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting: Raising Children with Courage, Compassion, and Connection
    Rising Strong as a Spiritual Practice
    Men, Women and Worthiness: The Experience of Shame and the Power of Being Enough

    Update on my weight loss program: I am posting my progress publicly to keep myself accountable! Good news is that I’m well ahead of target at 53.2kg. I’ve lost 2.3 kg since January 12th, so going well! If you are interested in how I am doing it – using Tony Robbins’ 5 steps to change – click through to the original post. I’m amazed at how easy it’s been so far using this technique.

    I haven’t done any new work lately, so I am sharing some of my older pieces. Hopefully I’ll get back in the groove soon! Licensing options are available for this design; please feel free to contact me with any queries.

  • Goodbye jelly belly!
    Losing weight using Tony Robbins’ 5 steps to change.

    This is my first woodcut using the two blocks that I carved and showed in the previous post. I had a lot of fun making this but I ran into a lot of problems. It was a great learning curve. Hopefully the next one will be more straight forward.

    Idon’t fit my favourite dresses.
    My children slap my wobbly tummy and giggle.
    I yearn for the strength and lightness I felt when I was fitter (when walking felt like restraint because every inch of me wanted to break into a run; and when running felt easy – not heavy and awkward.) More than anything, I don’t want to let go of my belief in myself that I am determined and self disciplined.
    It’s been eight years since I was at my ideal weight (pre-children), but this year I have a plan and no excuses: I am going to use a ‘Neuro Associative Conditioning’ technique taught by Anthony Robbins (often referred to as Tony) in Awaken the Giant Within.

    Below are excerpts from the five steps to change that Tony Robbins recommends. To understand them fully it is necessary to read his book. They are laid out and explained in detail in Chapter 6 and can be applied to any change, not weight loss specifically.

    1. Decide what you really want and what’s preventing you from having it now. The more specific you can be about what you want, the more clarity you will have, and the more power you will command to achieve what you want more rapidly.
    2. Get leverage: Associate massive pain to not changing now and massive pleasure to the experience of changing now. The only way we’re going to make a change now is if we create a sense of urgency that’s so intense that we’re compelled to follow through. To paraphrase the philosopher Nietzsche, he who has a strong enough why can bear almost any how. 20 percent of any change is knowing how; but 80 per cent is knowing why. If we gather a set of strong enough reasons to change, we can change in a minute something we’ve failed to change in years. Ask pain inducing questions: What will this cost me if I don’t change? What is it costing me mentally, emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually? Ask pleasure-associating questions: If I do change how will that make me feel about myself? What kind of momentum could I create if I change this in my life? What other things could I accomplish if I really made this change today? How will my family and friends feel? How much happier will I be?
    3. Interrupt the limiting pattern. In order for us to consistently feel a certain way, we develop characteristic patterns of thinking, focused on the same images and ideas, asking ourselves the same questions. The challenge is that most people want a new result, but continue to act in the same way. Think of some of the ways you can interrupt your own patterns. One of the key distinctions to interrupting a pattern is that you must do it in the moment the pattern is recurring.
    4. Create a new, empowering alternative. This fourth step is absolutely critical to establishing long term change. The failure by most people to find an alternative way of getting out of pain and into the feelings of pleasure is the major reason most people’s attempts at change are only temporary.
    5. Condition the new pattern until it is consistent. If you rehearse the new, empowering alternative again and again with tremendous emotional intensity, you’ll carve out a pathway, and with even more repetition and emotion, it will become a part of your habitual behavior. Your brain can’t tell the difference between something you vividly imagine and something you actually experience. Conditioning ensures that you automatically travel along the new route, that if you spot one of the “off ramps” you used to take all the time, now you just speed past them – in fact, they’ll actually become difficult to take. The next step is to set up a schedule to reinforce your new behavior. How can you reward yourself for succeeding? Don’t wait a year,. When you’ve gone a day, give yourself a reward!

    I will also be using advice and tools I have discovered via The Life Coach School. I have listed the specific podcast episodes below. I’ll be logging my progress over the entire year, aiming for a weight of 47 kilos by Christmas 2018 (preferably sooner). I weighed in two days ago at 55.5 kilos. Please get in touch if you’d like to join me in getting slim, strong, and healthy this year!
    Have a great week,
    Bren

    Awaken the Giant Within by Anthony Robbins (also known as Tony Robbins)

    The Life Coach School Podcast Episode 197: Urges
    The Life Coach School Podcast Episode 129: Weight Loss and Overeating Tools Part 1
    The Life Coach School Podcast Episode 131: Weight Loss and Overeating Tools Part 2